Wednesday, August 18, 2021
11:30 p.m.
*Disclaimer: My English isn’t free of mistakes, but I want as many people as possible to understand what I am writing about and reach them
Hello and welcome to this new blog post 🙂
It took me a long time to publish this post. I don’t know why nearly everybody is afraid of getting commented, but it’s also a problem of me. Everyday you get commented by some people who comment on your instagram post, judge your performance or by teachers giving you feedback and grades. Despite we get always commented, we’re afraid of commenting and also of comments on the internet.
Thought of Having to Be Perfect
In my opinion, an essential aspect why we are afraid of getting comments is the imagination that we have to be perfect, and we aren’t allowed to make mistakes. Although it is also hard for me to act with this thought in my mind, I reckon this thought is wrong. Without mistakes we wouldn’t grow, learn and develop ourselves.
Want to Be Liked by Everyone
Everyone want to be liked by others, but it’s also a problem of this topic and the following fear. You cannot be liked by everyone. You are a special person, who doesn’t exist around the world two times, with your own experiences, skills, preferences and more. You cannot share the same opinion with every other person. There will always be differences between your view and his’/hers, and that is totally good. Without different opinion and discussions, we won’t know all what we know. We can also develop through discussions. Maybe the other person will show us a new perspective or new information which can change your opinion.
Mistakes Let Us Grow
Mistakes let us grow. We can learn from our mistakes and develop ourselves. But for learning from a mistake, I am of the opinion that it’s important to get constructive feedback. I can work with constructive feedback and criticism. I cannot work with „I think your work is bad“. What is bad? Which aspects are judged? etc. Accepting that nobody is perfect, and mistakes are okay and useful is hard and takes long – at least for me.
Feeling Afraid of Comments
In spite of knowing that nobody is perfect, and mistakes are human, I am afraid of getting commented. I am afraid of cruel comments and the different expectations of people, that everyone is starring at me, and all people despise me. But – at least me – it doesn’t happen in this way. Normal mistakes happening in the daily life aren’t as horrible as I always think. There aren’t maybe fantastic reactions of other people, but the life always continues. The most important aspect from my point of view is that there will always people who love, like and stay with you.
Decision to Write This Blog Post in English
Two nights ago I began to like the idea of writing a blog post about exactly this topic. I want to share my thoughts not only with german-speaking people, I want to share them with so many people as possible, and that’s only possible in English, I suppose, and here is the problem. I am not the best in English. But I don’t want to bar myself because of that fact, and that’s the beginning of it. I don’t want to be afraid of comments and other peoples expectations of me and their reactions. I don’t reckon that it will work from this moment, but if it only sometimes work, I want to be proud of it.
Now, if you are only thinking about this topic: the comments, the people’s reactions, the expectations, …, I reached my goal. I am looking forward to publishing more posts like this. What is your point of view? Do you share my opinion? Did I forget something to say? Write it please in the comments.
Amara
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